Seth Barnes Oct 18, 2009 8:00 PM

Barnes children's code of conduct

Our children are grown and they have matured marvelously - we are so proud of them. But at times, like all kids, they've been rascals. Rules help t...

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Our children are grown and they have matured marvelously - we are so proud of them.

But at times, like all kids, they've been rascals. Rules help them navigate in a world that needs boundaries.  I was hunting around in my old files today and found this code of conduct that Karen and I drew up for them when they were small. If it seems strict and out of step, I say, "check out the fruit and compare it with their peers; this stuff doesn't happen by accident."

RELATIONSHIPS
1. Speak respectfully to your family and friends (words like "shut up" are not allowed).
2. Don't talk back to adults.
3. Express your feelings.
4. No bossiness or tattling.
5. If someone speaks to you, look them in the eye & answer.
6. Obey your parents.

RESPONSIBILITIES
1. Do your best at school.
2. Do your homework.
3. Do your chores cheerfully.
4. Don't go past your boundaries.
5. Have good manners & be polite.

ATTITUDES
1. No sassyness.
2. No self-centeredness.
3. Don't be negative.
4. Don't complain.

MORALS
1. No lying
2. No cheating
3. No stealing

PUNISHMENTS
1. Spanking
2. Go to your room
3. Get grounded
4.  Nickel time (see my comment below)

5. Parents' choice

RESPONSE

When we ask you to do something, do it "All the way, right away, & with a happy spirit."

When we ask you "how do we respond?" Your response should be:"All the way, right away, & with a happy spirit."

What rules have the rest of you parents found to work for your children?

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