I was hiking up Mt. Mitchell last weekend and the thought came to me, "One reason so many people are stuck spiritually is that they're asking an important question, but they're just asking it at the wrong time."

Whether we realize it or not, in our own way, we all ask five ultimate questions of God at some point in our lives.

Who? Who am I? Who are you? Who am I to be with?

What? What am I to do? What's my purpose on this world?

Where? Where am I to do it?

Why? Why is it important?

How? How am I to do it?

When I asked myself these questions, I realized that a lot of people probably get stuck because they've tried to answer a question, but done so in the wrong order.

We guys especially are wired to answer the "what?" question. But we need to ask the "who?" question first. Role without identity can lead to insecurity. One reason a lot of guys are hard to love is that they don't know themselves and therefore can't love themselves.

When I asked the "what?" question, my answer was: "I bring dead things to life. I unlock prisoners and potential. I see possibility. I fight for the poor, the hopeless and oppressed." But this came after I'd already answered the "who?" question.

What question are you trying to answer? If you're feeling, stuck, maybe even frustrated with God, perhaps you need to go back and make sure you're asking him the right question at the right time.